Re-post: To Lead is To Love is To Serve

The anatomy of marriage

“Marriage is the graduate school of service.” – Pastor David Chadwick I’ve made no secret of my belief in marriage. Mrs. Booth and I have been married for nearly 32 years, with the struggles and joys that come with being married that long. It has been and is a great thing and I love being […]

To Lead is To Love is To Serve

The anatomy of marriage

“Marriage is the graduate school of service.” – Pastor David Chadwick I’ve made no secret of my belief in marriage. Mrs. Booth and I have been married for nearly 32 years, with the struggles and joys that come with being married that long. It has been and is a great thing and I love being […]

Re-post: On Stock Cars and Station Wagons

Why confusing love and marriage leads to dysfunction

Commenter Dale provided a reminder recently of an important concept that deserves more attention: “Dalrock, on his blog, has somewhat regularly been hitting the idea that we have love and marriage totally backwards. We think that a relationship of romantic love is the correct place in which to have sex and create marriage. A consequence […]

Re-post — Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part I

Marriage rocks - but you must be present to win

Note: In last week’s post, I quoted J. R. R. Tolkien’s saying that monogamy for men isn’t natural. I agree. It is, however, worth the effort as I explain in this post and its follow-up.   “He who loves one woman has loved them all. He who has loved many women has loved none.”  – […]

J.R.R. Tolkien on Love, Sex, and Marriage

What the author of "The Lord of the Rings" told his son

I encountered what I’m about to share with you quite providentially. In a discussion regarding male-female relationships, someone made a passing reference to the letters J.R.R. Tolkien wrote to his son. Being a fan of “The Hobbit” and “The Lord of the Rings, I was intrigued, went looking for the letter, and found it. I […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part II

What's in it for both of you

“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he grazes among the lilies.” – Song of Solomon 6:3 In my last post, I began a discussion regarding the benefits of monogamy. You can read Part I here. This time, I’d like to lay out some of the blessings and benefits of lifelong faithfulness. Knowing […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part I

Marriage rocks - but you must be present to win

“He who loves one woman has loved them all. He who has loved many women has loved none.”  – Spanish proverb In my last post, I explained why the myth of “The One” could be hazardous to your prospects for a healthy and satisfying marriage. Some men refer to this phenomenon as oneitis (as in: […]

Why Pursuing “The One” Will Leave You Lonely

As the man said, "The perfect is the enemy of the good."

“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” – Proverbs 27:15-16 (ESV) Note: Welcome to my 100th post — which also coincides with the first anniversary of our launch. Thank you for reading, for […]

If You Tell A Man to “Man Up…”

You probably also like kissing frogs unironically

“Tell me, and I may forget. Show me, and I may remember. Involve me, and I may understand.” -Chinese Proverb Fortunately for all of us, it appears we are seeing a dramatic decrease in the use of the term “Man up.” If only the spirit behind it would follow it down. As is true with […]

On Stock Cars and Station Wagons

Why confusing love and marriage leads to dysfunction

Commenter Dale provided a reminder recently of an important concept that deserves more attention: “Dalrock, on his blog, has somewhat regularly been hitting the idea that we have love and marriage totally backwards. We think that a relationship of romantic love is the correct place in which to have sex and create marriage. A consequence […]