Re-Post: Follow Your Passion — or Develop Your Passion?

Learning to Love What Must Be Done

The following story appeared as a guest post by Mark Kinsley on Q’s Views — the blog of Mark Quinn.  I have obtained the permission of Los Dos Marcos to reproduce it in part here.  Click here to read the original post. I want to feature this story here because young men are complaining that […]

The Most Powerful Lie Is The One You Tell Yourself

Learn to Think and See Clearly

“People lose their way when they lose their why” – Gail Hyatt A man on a mission has to be on his guard, as there are obstacles and enemies that would thwart his purpose. Bandits will try to rob him, women will try to seduce him, fatigue will try to overpower him and even his […]

Re-Post: Meet the Hall of Fame Running Back Who Didn’t Like Football

#TBT

Note: In honor of the start of football season, here’s a post from the early days of this blog. For a lot of men, fall means football.  Perhaps it’s the memory of their own playing days in Pop Warner leagues, sandlot games or the varsity squad.  Maybe it’s memories of going to games with Dad.  Or […]

Why Authority Is the Least Important Aspect of Leadership

"Because I said so," is a doomed strategy

“In a multitude of people is the glory of a king,     but without people a prince is ruined.” – Proverbs 14:28 Several months ago, I wrote a post on leadership titled “Lead From The Front” in which I outlined several aspects of good leadership. I hope that you’ve been putting these into practice and that […]

The Best Advice Ever Was a Stern Rebuke

Do the work - it will pay off eventually

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend;     profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:6 (ESV) The story I’m about to tell you is true. While I am not particularly proud of certain aspects of this story, I think it has a happy enough ending, as well as a useful moral, so I’m […]

Why You Should Always Take ALL Your Allotted Vacation Days

Work/Life "Balance" is a misnomer -- Life is much heavier

“It is in vain that you rise up early     and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil;     for he gives to his beloved sleep.” – Psalm 127:2 (ESV) As a man considers his work, and how it fits or doesn’t fit his life, he needs to set aside proper amounts of time […]

Why Should A Man Choose Integrity Over Pragmatism?

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.” – Proverbs 14:12 How do you make decisions? When you’re running out of time and you have to choose one option and only one option, how do you determine which one to take? Some men select the […]

How To Fire Up the Engine of Your Effectiveness

Why you need Passion, Purpose and Potential to thrive

“You can’t go around half-pregnant.” – A famous saying by my uncle. Our mission here at Ontozoan – One Real Life is to motivate and inspire men to embrace Thriving Authentic Masculinity and to become the best possible version of themselves. Part of the way we accomplish this is through my passing along lessons I’ve […]

Is The Matrix Making You Fat and Numb?

Learning to look past the surface

“When the righteous increase, the people rejoice, but when the wicked rule, the people groan.” – Proverbs 29:2 (ESV) In the movie The Matrix, there is a confrontation between Morpheus — the guide who helps Thomas Anderson become Neo — and Agent Smith, the nondescript enforcer of the meta-construct. Smith has taken Morpheus captive and […]

Why Taking Care of Yourself Helps You Care for Others

Are you a stream or a puddle?

“…but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” – Jesus (John 4:14) Several years ago I served as a volunteer worship leader for our church. Since then I’ve had the opportunity to be […]